Easy Ways to Increase Your Lover’s Libido

It’s an old story. You’re all excited for a steamy night with your other half. You’re thinking whip cream and tangled sheets when it becomes clear that they’re just not up for the same sexy scenario. Whether it’s a new creative excuse or the old “I’ve got a headache” standby, it doesn’t feel good to be rejected.

Sex is an important part of any romantic relationship. If you find that you’re getting turned down more often by your lover, that’s going to create problems in the relationship. Coordinating different libidos can be a difficult task for even the most connected lovers but it is not impossible. Here are some things that you can do for your lover to get more out of your sex life without even trying too hard:

Be Nice. I know this seems obvious, but you’d be surprised at how many people overlook this simple thing. Nobody wants to have sex with someone they’re mad at. (Unless they’re into “angry sex.” If that’s the case, be the biggest jerk you can be. I mean, you’re trying to get laid here, aren’t you?) For the rest of us, whatever you’re fighting about or picking with each other about, let it go for a couple of days.

Get Moving. Physical activity wakes your body up and puts you in tune with it. Exercise or going dancing will put you and your partner back in touch with your body’s needs. Twister is an easy child’s game that’s been known to bring the sexy out of some people. Suggest a yoga class or a sexy game to get the blood circulating and their mind on the physical aspects of your relationship.

Watch What You Put In Their Mouth. You are what you eat. Certain foods are better for your libido than some others. Oily fish like salmon, sardines and mackerel may not seem all that sexy, but the selenium, zinc and magnesium this food group contains all are essential to your sex life. Stress is another libido killer and B Complex vitamins combat that. Pack your partner’s diet with dairy, green vegetables and peanuts to increase their libido.

If You Lube It, They Will Cum. Dryness is a major problem for many women. It makes sex less enjoyable and makes them reluctant for future sex. It’s not great from the man’s side of things, either. Just a little lubrication will get things going and bring back all those fun sensations that have been missing from past encounters. There are lots of lubricant varieties. You can find some that come in tasty flavors and interesting textures.

Take the Show on the Road. Home isn’t just where the heart is . . . it’s also where all your problems are too. And the laundry. And the kids. And those pile of bills waiting to be paid. Sometimes all of those distractions make it harder to get into a sexy frame of mind. Take your partner on a sexy vacation to give their libido a jump start. If a vacation isn’t in the budget, spending the night at a nice hotel in town will make your partner and your wallet happy.

Go Herbal. Sometimes a lagging libido isn’t just about diet, exercise or mood. For the hard cases, herbal sexual supplements may be the answer. Most of these supplements can be bought over the counter and don’t require a doctor’s permission for use. With affordable options and minimal risks, your lover probably won’t mind trying an herbal supplement.

Eight Tips to Better Phone Sex

The great thing about sex is that (almost) anybody can do it. You just take off your clothes and do what comes naturally. Phone sex, on the other hand, is a little more complicated. Everything that you would normally rely on—your body or your favorite move—doesn’t mean a thing when you’re doing it over the phone. It’s all about your words and the images you create with them. If you’re a big talker during sex, you have an advantage over those who are not. Still, most of us could benefit from a few tips to improve our phone sex lives. Here are some ways:

Get Naked or Wear Something Sexy. Sure, no one is going to see you, but if you feel sexy, it will come through in your voice. So dim those lights, light those candles and turn on the porn. Anything that will put in you in a sexy relaxed mood is a good idea.

Get Talking. Silence is not sexy. I know that this seems like a no brainer, but you have to talk to have phone sex. You’d be surprised how many people forget that. If you’re normally mute in the bedroom, it’s time to open up. There is no such thing as talking too much. Just say what you want and what you feel.

Commit To It. You can’t go into this half-hearted. If you sound like you don’t believe what you’re saying, your partner won’t either. If you don’t use your imagination, phone sex is going to be difficult. Another tool you’ll need is confidence. Even if you don’t feel confident, fake it until you make it.

Slow Down. This is probably the number one mistake that people make when they have phone sex. The problem is that you’re nervous and you’re not completely sure that you don’t sound like an idiot. Then you try to rush through it, but that’s actually what makes you sound like an idiot. And the last thing that you want is for the person on the other end to keep asking you to repeat yourself because you’re talking too fast. That’s a surefire mood killer.

Be Specific. “I wanna put something in your someplace” isn’t going to cut it. Remember that this person can’t see you or feel you. All they have is what you’re saying. So make sure that you’re being detailed. Make sure that you explain how you’re feeling and why. You want your partner to get aroused with just your words. Details will make that happen much quicker than generalizations.

Don’t Forget Your Hands. Yes, phone sex is all about the words coming from your mouth, but your hands play a part, too. While your mouth does the talking, your fingers should do the walking. Or use your favorite sex toy. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’re fueling the fire on your end.

Have Fun. Whether you’re having phone sex or traditional sex, you should be always be having fun. Don’t take yourself too seriously and don’t be discouraged if mistakes happen. You just need to keep trying.

Practice Makes Perfect. Phone sex isn’t just for long distance relationships. Nearly every relationship could use a little spice in it. Phone sex can do just that. Whether it’s during a lunch break or on an overnight trip, phone sex gives you a chance to explore your relationship in a new way. You’d be surprised at what you’ll learn from talking dirty to each other over the phone.

The Ins and Outs of Sex Therapy

Sexual therapy is any form of therapy that focuses on the sex lives of the patient. A patient may seek out a sexual therapist to cope with any number of sexual dysfunctions. Impotency, premature ejaculation and past sexual abuse are all dysfunctions. The initial consultation is usually a casual discussion, so that the therapist can determine the type of dysfunction present and the underlying issues behind it.

The truth is that it’s a lot like any other kind of therapy. There’s a lot more talking than most people realize. The difference is that it focuses more intently on the patient’s personal sexual issues. Getting to the root of a dysfunction requires lots of delving into the patients past. Therapists’ help patients get back to the basics of sexual behavior while changing learned behavior that is preventing them from having a normal sex life. Therapists may also assign “home play” exercises or homework, which the patients can practice with their partner. The goal is to get you to take the lessons learned in therapy and apply them to your everyday sex life. Please remember that no reputable sex therapist will ask you to take off your clothes or touch you intimately.

Most of the patients are couples seeking to enhance their intimacy. Communication is important in any healthy relationship. Seeing a sex therapist may make it easier to communicate your wants and needs from your partner. Couples therapy usually go on for a lot longer than individual sessions because there are two different sets of issues to be worked on. The therapist may also schedule individual sessions to give each partner the full attention.

Single people sometimes seek out sex therapy too. Certain dysfunctions, like sexual addiction or the inability to orgasm, are usually diagnosed while the patient is not in a serious relationship.

Sex toys are often used in therapy as aids. Knowing your body and becoming comfortable with it is the first step to overcoming many sexual dysfunctions. Vibrators are recommended to women who have problems reaching orgasms or find themselves severely inhibited in the bedroom. A therapist might suggest role-playing to couples who find themselves in a sexual rut. On the other hand, a sex doll may be used to help a former victim of abuse overcome sexual dysfunction. Most sexual therapy approaches incorporate some sort of play with sex toys.

Choosing the right therapist is important. The doctor patient relationship plays a big part in how successful your therapy is. Consider the type of person you would be most comfortable with talking about taboo or personal topics. Would you be more comfortable with a male or female? Would you prefer a therapist with extensive backgrounds in their particular dysfunction? These are some things you should consider when choosing your sex therapist.

The best way to find the right therapist is through referrals from people who are or have successfully completed sex therapy. Unfortunately, your friends and family may be a little reluctant to talk about their therapy, so if you don’t know anyone who can refer you, try looking on the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists website for a therapist that meets your needs.

Unveiling a Splash of Quartz

Topco Sales recently unveiled a handful of new additions to its Climax Gems collection. Just to name a few are the Spiral Shaft, Topaz Swell and my favorite, the Quartz Splash.

With its unique jelly shape and beautiful color, this vibe does not disappoint. It features a multi-function vibrating tip controlled by a twist knob. Control the intensity of your orgasm with a simple turn.

The shaft has a wavy shape that heightens sensations and provides an oh, so feel good experience. It is waterproof, extremely easy to clean and makes a nice addition to any toy chest....check out all the different shapes.

The Clear Case for Glass Sex Toys

The first thing most people think when they hear about glass sex toys is “ouch”. As intimidating as they may seem, they are actually safe, hypoallergenic, and outperform most other toys by giving more lifelike sensations and intense orgasms.

Many first time glass toy users are worried about safety. These toys are made of Pyrex, a type of tempered glass used in everything from cookware to telescope lenses. Tempered glass is special because it’s been heated to extreme temperatures to make it stronger and more durable. The glass in your toy isn’t the same as the glass in a picture frame or mirror. It’s not as fragile and is much thicker and heavier. Glass dildos are completely solid without any sharp edges or breakable pieces. Most also come with a padded velvet bag to store them in. This will prevent them from being damaged or broken.

Believe it or not, making glass sex toys is an art in itself. They are not mass-produced but instead are made by hand one by one by an experienced glass blower. This unique artisanship is one of the reasons that these toys cost so much more than others made of silicone or rubber. No two are the same and each one is a working piece of art. While these toys are often modeled after the shape of a penis, they don’t necessarily look like one. So keeping your private matters private is easier than with some other toys. Some owners even put them on display instead of storing them in a box. These toys are honestly just too beautiful to hide.

The benefits to owning a glass sex toy are many. First, they are naturally hypoallergenic. There are no nooks or crannies to hide bacteria and no synthetic material to cause allergic reactions in those with sensitive skin. Cleaning is as easy as rubbing it down with alcohol or washing it with warm soap and water. Not only does the glass surface keep germs and bacteria out, it makes a little lubricant go a long way. Whether it’s coming from a bottle or yourself, moisture lasts longer because a glass surface doesn’t absorb it like other materials do.

The truth is that most conventional toys are not designed to last for long periods of time. Your dildo may be your best friend, but if it’s not made of glass don’t expect it to stick around for more than a year or so. The synthetic materials will deteriorate over time as the porous surface develops wear and tear. On the other hand, a glass sex toy can conceivably last a lifetime if cleaned and stored properly.

The best part is how they feel. The weight of glass dildos almost mimics the feel of sex with another person. Softer toy materials like silicone don’t provide as firm as a touch to the G-spot or the prostate. Glass dildos are made of an inflexible material, making it easier to stimulate both these areas and provide deeper orgasms. Best of all, glass toys are temperature sensitive. For a warm feeling that copies a skin-to-skin touch, run your glass toy under warm water. You may also try cool water for the opposite effect. The incredible sensation gives you the feeling of real sex as opposed to just playing with a toy.

The Truth and Nothing Butt

One of the most misunderstood sex toys in the world is the butt plug. While even the most conservative soccer mom may have a trusty vibrator, dildo or pair of handcuffs, the pleasures of the butt plug are lost on many. If you’re not familiar with anal play, a butt plug may not be something that you have in your nightstand, but maybe it should be.

While, anal play may be taboo to some, it is quite normal to many. There are millions of people, both heterosexual and homosexual, that incorporate “the backdoor” into their sexual routines. Both men and women can find pleasure in anal play. Butt plugs stimulate a man’s prostate, an area concentrated with nerves, giving sensations similar to those a woman feels when her G-spot is stimulated. For women, wearing a butt plug forces the penis or dildo in her vagina toward the front walls, increasing the contact with her G-spot. Even for those who are not anal sex converts, the use of a butt plug really brings a new dimension to their lovemaking. It gives a sensation of “fullness” that can be very satisfying for either sex. And once you’ve worn a butt plug a few times, anal sex becomes more enjoyable as well.

Your basic plug is shaped sort of like a short, rounded dildo, with a flared end. (The flared end allows the plug to be kept in place and avoids any embarrassing “accidents” that may land you in the emergency room.) Experts say that you should NEVER insert anything in your rectum that doesn’t have a flared end or retrieval handle. From extra large, glow in the dark to penis shaped, butt plugs come in a rainbow of sizes and shapes. They are usually made out vinyl, rubber, jelly or silicone to ensure your comfort and the ease of cleaning it. If the fullness sensation is what you’re after, an inflatable butt plug may be the right choice. They insert as a regular sized plug and can then be inflated to various sizes using a hand pump. Vibrating butt plugs combine the pleasures of a vibrator with that of the plug and take your lovemaking to an entirely new level. If you’re the experimental type, try the many varieties and determine what is best for you. Because what brings you the most pleasure, may not necessarily be the same for your partner.

Using a butt plug is easier than you may think. Be sure to start small if you are not used to anal penetration. You can always work your way up later. Always use lubrication that is specially made for anal sex, because they are thick, water based formulas that allow for the most comfort. Proceed with care and remember, butt plugs are not designed to be used as a dildo and moved in and out. A butt plug is meant to be inserted and left alone until it is removed. Avoid wearing butt plugs for prolonged periods because it can weaken your anal muscles.

How to Get Exactly What You Want in Bed....Hint: Use Your Mouth

We live in “TMI” society. From blogs to YouTube to Facebook, people are offering more information than ever about themselves to the public. Yet when it comes down to telling our partners exactly what we want in bed, suddenly we find it hard to share our secrets. This makes no sense. Announcing what I ate for lunch today to everyone in my friends list usually gets me nothing. But if I can get up the courage to actually communicate what I need from a sexual partner, then we can both get to the good parts a lot faster. Look at it as a form of foreplay. You exchange turn-ons, fantasies and basic information on how to please each other. There is nothing embarrassing about it and it serves as a prelude for what is to come.

Sex is a team sport for the most part so communication is important. (If you don’t want to work as a team, you should save us all the trouble and just masturbate.) Maybe the reason we find it so hard to do so is because we’re afraid of being rejected. Nobody wants to hear, “You wanna do WHAT?! That’s way too freaky for me, man. I’m outta here.” Still, you can’t let fear of rejection hold you back. Regardless of how unusual your sexual preferences, there’s at least one person in this world that’s willing to cater to them. You just have to be brave enough to ask for it. If you are completely comfortable with your partner, feel no fear in speaking up because it will actually bring you closer together.

Maybe Facebook should add a section for your sexual info. Instead of putting your favorite movies and books, you can list your favorite sex moves, or props. You can list your personal boundaries and even announce your “safe word”, if you’re into that sort of stuff. Then new sexual partners can just research the whole thing before you even take off your clothes and come prepared for whatever may happen. No bedroom surprises. No fear of rejection. No awkward conversations. No problems.

Feel the Flesh

So you're shopping for that perfect adult toy. You consider the shape, the size and color. You think you are ready to add to cart but you suddenly remember the most important thing - "What do I want the toy to feel like? When you ask yourself how the "real thing" feels, your decision on a material will be made for you - Cyberskin.

Cyberskin is the most realistic material on the market today. It literally feels like human flesh, with the softness and ability to warm to body temperature. The material is a "new Aerospace 601 computerized injection molding machine", originally designed by NASA. It covers the toy with the real feel of human skin, soft, silky and smooth.

Check out our Dildo and Doll Products to learn more about some of the Cyberskin products we offer.

Elegant NEW Couture Collection

We just added a new collection of elegant toys called the Couture Collection. Luxury, power, and innovation are the inspiration for these hot new products. There are eight models to choose from all made from silicone with seven function vibration control. They are pliable, waterproof and have an automatic on/off button.

Models: Celestial, Dauphine, Nirvana, Organza, Cyclone, Sublime, Utopia, Tsunami

Sex Toys and Relationships

You may be one of those people who never bought a sex toy or simply have one stashed away in a drawer that only comes out on special occasions. My first question is, why? Do you realize what you are missing?

There is nothing embrassing, disgusting or strange about owning one or even owning a whole trunk. The notion that they are only used by hookers, freaks or perverts is not exactly correct. Sure these people use them, but so does everyone else including businessmen, housewives, lawyers, politicians, teachers, etc...They are by far the biggest booster in intimacy in any relationship. They help partners express their sexuality, add spice to lovemaking and are flat out fun. Are they used often in solo acts of masterbation? Sure they are, but the intensity they add to a relationship is overwhelming.

Given their popularity surge in the last few years, women and men are becoming more adventurous in bed and using a variety of different toys, trying out which ones work best. But there are still many couples and single people who have yet to experience the pleasure in cyberskin, silicone and cyberjelly. Perhaps there is a bit of fear about which toys to use and how to use them. My advice is to explore all the options Sex Vibe Shop has to offer, learn about the different materials and try a few out. I've heard many people say they are embrarrassed to buy toys and even more worried about introducing them with their partners. This is to be expected. This is why we created very discreet online purchases and shipping. And talking it over with your partner in advance will help ease any discomfort about using them together.

The bottom line is adult sex toys are fun, feel great and add a new level of excitement.